It’s unusually warm in Boston at this time of year. At least, that’s what I’m told. However, I guess some of that good ol’ California sunshine (and weather) followed me here, because the weather has been good. Really good.
Finals are over! First semester is over! Everything. Is. Done.
But before I get to that part, the weekend before finals, Amanda and I went to Frog Pond and skated with the MOST ADORABLE kids.
It was such a lovely day—60 degrees, if I recall correctly. The sun was out, and it was crisp enough to need a light sweater. It felt so nice to be outside, because studying usually keeps you cooped up in the dorms, and the atmosphere was so lively. The rink is nearly a full sized one, and there was plenty of room to zip around, ride the seals, and play tag. Topped off by hot chocolate, it was a hard day to beat.
Tomorrow I’m going home! Hooray for Christmas cookies, trees, and spirit. I’m also going to sleep in my bed. Looking forward to that.
Before I finish packing (and there’s a lot of packing), here are a few thoughts…
- You make your experience. Get involved, or not. Party, or not. Do your homework, or not (I really advise doing your homework because if you’re going to a private school you’re probably paying $60,000+ annually and/or are saddled with the glorious thing known as student loans). Make friends, or not. Do your laundry, or not (also highly advisable to do). Be nice, or not. Learn, or don’t. Have an open mind, or closed mind. Explore, or don’t. Be…or not to be…the question remains. But it’s not a question that has no answer. You are in the active process of creating the decision to be, by the choices you make every day. The big and the small ones.
- You don’t have to “have it all.” Really. You don’t. It’s scary and overwhelming at first. You feel like you have to do everything so that you’ll look like someone. But as the semester goes on, you’ll figure out what you like and don’t like and hopefully, you’ll have figured out what really matters to you.
- Figure out what really matters. “Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. As yourself what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because the world needs people who have come alive.” –Howard Thurman. Find out what matters to you: what causes are important, what career you think you want to have, a hobby you want to pick up. Don’t waste your time doing activities that only serve to make you “look good” on paper. Do something that matters to you, and that will speak volumes more than the things you didn’t love.
- Put yourself out there. If you’re an introvert (raises hand), I don’t mean that you should make friends with everyone on your floor, or say hi and shake hands with every new person you meet during the semester. It’s ok to need space. However, when the offer presents itself, when someone reaches out, take it. Be open; be vulnerable. It helps you grow.
- Ask for help. Accept it.
- Remember that by entering an institution of higher learning, you enter the world of the elite. Only a small percentage of the world will have the privilege of attending college. Let that pull you through the most unbearable slumps.
- Try your best, and remember that that is enough.
Happy holidays, friends. I’m excited to see what second semester holds.