Getting Uncomfortable.

This is an extension of an Instagram post. I’m not a super fan of dissertations in the caption box…but I am a fan of dissertations here. Ha.

A couple days ago, I was sitting in the car with a friend. The drive was long, but not tedious. California, as populated as it is, still possess stunning, unparalleled views. Especially in the Bay.


No matter how nice the view, though, long rides can be at best, awkward, depending on the rapport between passengers. But chatter flowed freely. It was just two friends catching up about life.

We hopped from topic to topic, but mostly we talked about what we had been learning about ourselves. Long morning commutes offer time for deep introspection, if you’re willing to go there. Out of that conversation sprung several points that I mentioned on Instagram, and which I’ll be expanding upon.

The first is that we concluded that we love being comfortable. This has nothing to do, however, with our fashion choices nor our abodes, nor anything else in a material sense. We’re talking about mental comfortability. The stability and safety net a routine offers. Comfortable offers us white-knuckled control over our lives. But you know what? Comfortable is dangerous, too. It never challenges us nor asks us to expect more. We’re on cruise control.

And let me just be upfront here and say I LOVE BEING COMFORTABLE. My grip is like iron and I hate being in any situation I can’t control. But since January of this year, God has been gently showing me how amazing things can be when I loosen my grip to accept what he has to offer.


That’s not to say being content is a bad thing. In fact, I would rather be content than happy any day. There’s a difference between contentment (which I believe is confidence and joy in where you are at) with being placid. And, this can be detrimental to our walk with God, because we stop expecting him to do great things. What’s worse, we see ourselves as the drivers of good things. Comfortability squashes (healthy) vulnerability and makes God a spectator, as opposed to the director, of our lives. And when we become comfortable, anything that challenges that is immediately threatening—even if it’s good for us.

My friend told me about a podcast she’s been listening to about Exodus and the story of Moses. It’s presented by Reality SF and this series is revelatory. It’s called “Deliverance,” and it’s not just looking at the miracles. It’s a character study of Moses and the greatness and imperfections that came with him. You know what’s nuts? We could all probably see ourselves in him.

My friend recommends “The Call” and “Evil Never Goes Down Easily.” “The Call” specifically talks about comfortability…and why we need to let it go.

Wow, ok. This has been long. I’ll be following this post up with my next point: Dreams.

In the mean time, my goal with these posts is to foster a kind, healthy discussion about what you think about these topics. As long as you are polite and constructive, I would love for you to drop a comment. Do you agree? Disagree? Think I’m missing something? Let me know!

4 thoughts on “Getting Uncomfortable.

  1. Sarah J Callen says:

    I like your contrast between contentment and comfort, it’s easy to confuse the two but they couldn’t be more different. To me, contentment is regardless of circumstances and comfort is dependent upon circumstances.

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  2. bethanprentice says:

    Marissa, I loved this post! It really got me thinking about comfort vs contentment, where they overlap and how they differ. I tried to comment once but WordPress kicked me out of the site for not being signed in, so I got to think even more about it hahaa.
    I do have so many comforts surrounding me. Definitely not as many as America, but still the concept of “comfort” is one that every culture has fought to instill into every human on earth. And I don’t think that a comfort is bad, but I agree with your point of living in comfortability: allowing comfort to be a way of being, not just a thing. It places a limit on what we allow papa to do.

    One of my comforts is coffee, and in foreign countries, it’s Starbucks. Recently I was avoiding everything I had to do, at all costs, because one of the decisions I had to make, I knew would make me uncomfortable no matter what papa led me to. So as a result I ran away from the laptop that held the website application that needed a few buttons clicked to it, and went to the Starbucks a half hour away. Within 5 minutes of sitting down, a lady sat down and began to chat with me in broken English. In a mix of our languages and google translate, she completely opened her heart and gave me opportunity to tell her the Story that she had never heard before. We chatted for 3 hours about it. And it was wonderful, but I just felt papa chuckle at me. When I run away from discomfort, there is always more around the next corner. I love to share what I did, but telling someone their fate if they don’t accept truth and sharing to a stranger about the lowest moments of my life aren’t what I call comfortable, and they were not what I was looking for in Starbucks. I probably would have been a lot more comfortable at home. But that’s my gracious papa, he doesn’t allow me to live in comfortability, because it’s not good for me. Even when I run, he gently places another uncomfortable situation (which I could have chosen to run from too).
    Comfortability comes from allowing worldly comforts to trick us into believing we are content, over the one who brings true contentment.
    Anyway, I just super love this, and I’m excited to read the next one! You really inspire and encourage me, and it’s so wonderful to see you live out who papa made you to be💕💕

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    • Marissa says:

      Bethan! Thanks for sharing this. I love following all your adventures through your email updates! I really commend you for stepping into that situation…that probably took a lot of guts. But that was a great example of how God just meets us where we are…and I hope that encounter gave you the courage to go finish that application. You inspire me too, and I can’t wait to see what God’s doing next in your life!


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